Fantastic Friday

Well another work week in the books and it is already April, yay!!! Yesterday afternoon my boss asked me if I would like to join him for a round of golf today since there fourth person could not attend. As strange as it may seem I actually had to think about it and I have declined an invitation from him a few weeks ago. I did think about it and thought “why not”. Business isn’t going very good but this doesn’t seem to bother my boss so why should it bother me. I am an extremely generous boss and I knew he would pay for my golf so cost wasn’t a concern. The real concern lay with where that money was coming from. The more I thought about it the more I realized I need to make the best of everyday and playing golf today was the best for today.

Last night I came home to an empty house which is a rarity and a bit unnerving. Since my friends are nearly always home I thought something may have happened but it just turns out they were living their lives. I had my dinner with no one around and it just wasn’t the same. The house is always filled with energy and as I sat there by myself I felt a bit lonely. I enjoy the company of my friends (hopefully they enjoy my company) so it was strange sitting there alone.

Less then an hour after my arrival one of my friends did come home and all was well. By this time I was in full decompress mode and I was in my bedroom. I didn’t want a repeat from the previous night of inane surfing of the internet so I did what I had to do on the internet and got off. I was actually asleep earlier then normal since I had to get up early for the gym. I needed to get to the gym early because I was meeting my boss early as well to drive to the golf course.

I did get up without any problems and was at the gym much earlier then normal. I got a great workout and this training for the San Diego Rock n’ Roll marathon is going very well. I didn’t work out yesterday which meant I was one day behind in my training schedule. I did yesterday’s training this morning and it was very good. I accomplished the workout in less time then it normally takes me so I had a few minutes to spare before meeting my boss.

I spent that few minutes in Starbucks getting an iced green tea/lemonade. I was so surprise to see this particular Starbucks was opened 24 hours a day. I guess people need their fix of Starbucks and they can now get it at anytime. We moved to this area 7 years ago and back then it was a town where the sidewalks were rolled up at 7:00 pm but I guess things have changed!!

My boss drove to the golf course and we had a great discussion about recovering. My boss is a recovering compulsive gambler and a recovering alcoholic. He has over 30 years in AA which is phenomenal since he is only a few years older then me. He came to AA at the age of 15 and has stayed sober ever since. I marveled at this because when I was 18 I wanted no part of Gamblers Anonymous as I thought I could do it myself. This didn’t workout so well but I am eternally grateful for my recovering now.

My boss entered AA as a 15 year old because the rest of his family had entered recovery at basically the same time. It truly was a family affair and now it still is a family affair since everyone in the family is still active in recovering. This is amazing and I do learn so much from anyone who is recovering. The experts say “an addiction is an addiction” and I do believe this to be correct. Something consumed my life and I am powerless over this something which turns out to be gambling. It doesn’t matter whether it is an addiction to gambling, alcohol, drugs, sex, eating, shopping or fill in the blank; addictions take over people’s lives. In recovery a successful recovery people get back their lives and my life continues to improve with everyday.

I had a great time on the golf course and the weather was incredible. It was more like a summer day then a spring day with the temperatures in the lower 80’s. I played so much better then last week and can see my game coming together. I still have no chance at making the PGA Tour but there was a marketable improvement from last week to this week. The smile on my face was there all day long and yes, it was a fantastic day.

I returned to the office later this afternoon and finished up some work. I was planning on going to a minor league baseball game but events of my past prevented me from attending. It really “is what it is” and situations like this will come up from time to time. I do believe in the “path of least resistance” and it was much less resistant for me to stay at home this evening instead of attending the baseball game. I had mixed emotions attending the baseball game in the first place because the last time I was in that stadium my daughter was coming in from centerfield to perform with her cheerleading troupe. It does seem strange to attend a baseball game without my family so I do believe I am better off.

These are some of things I must contend with and for the most part everyone has been incredibly supportive. There are detractors out there but as long as I continue doing the right things life gets better. I cannot do anything about the people I come across who might be less then supportive and I do accept this wholeheartedly. My life continues on a positive path and my attitude is also very positive.