What 27 Years Already???

I am “baching” it this week as the family continues their visit in New Jersey. In the years past I would like forward to these times of me being a “bachelor” but not anymore. I miss them and life is fairly uneventful without the family. Yes, I was without my family for nearly 2 years and 19 ½ months of those 2 years I was in place no one should ever experience but thankfully those days are long gone. It has been uneventful these past few days and really I could only work so long during the day and I can only exercise so much during the weekend. I look forward to the return of my wife this week as the children stay for one more week visiting the family. I am so fortunate to have such a great family on both sides of the aisle. There is so much family back in New Jersey that I know the children are in good hands and will continue their great visit.

I haven’t been doing much with myself over the past few days other than the aforementioned work, exercise and yesterday I reintroduced myself to my golf clubs. I hadn’t swung a golf club in nearly six months and it was good to get out on the golf course. There really isn’t much time for golf nowadays with the children’s activities on the weekend and work during the week. It seems like I always “found” time in the past to get out and play golf but that time is so much more precious today and I would much rather be at a baseball or softball game on the weekends as opposed to chasing a little white ball around! I did have fun chasing the little white ball yesterday and even though I couldn’t hit a lick on the driving range my swing seemed to return and it was a very fun round.

I didn’t ask anyone to play so I went out by myself and played the first 7 holes by myself. I was really enjoying that period of time and swinging the club very well. I did pair up with a very nice gentleman for a few holes and my game seemed to suffer during those holes. I don’t know what it was but I seemed to play much better by myself and it seems if I am going to play a good round of golf no one should be around!! That wouldn’t be much fun and I do enjoy the company of my friends while playing golf but yesterday no one was available so I made do and it was alright.

Work is moving along and I have several projects I need to complete in the coming days. I need to motivate myself much better and realize I am much better at managing people than I am at doing the actual work. That is probably a bad thing but it is the truth. I do manage only one person in the office and this is a pleasure. I have always found it better to treat people like adults and let them make their own decisions. This has worked out great over the years and it seems to be working out very well now. I am not a micro-manager but I am always there to answer any questions and offer advice. I can remember a few episodes in my “previous life” where I would just shake my head as to how other managers treated their subordinates. Fortunately in my current environment I don’t have to shake my head anymore.

I had a horrible run yesterday morning and for the first time in a very long time I just wanted to stop running before I was finished. I fought through the last few miles and did stop after 12 miles. I initially wanted to do 16 miles but I was winded and had enough at mile 12 calling it a day. I did try to cycle for another 30 minutes but I listened to my body at the 12th minute as I headed for the shower. It was interesting how I felt so bad at a pace I have done and exceeded many times prior. It was one of those and yes, those days do happen but thankfully they are few and far between.

Yesterday the Fourth of July marked the 27th anniversary of the first time I met my wife. Yes, it was 27 years ago we went out on our first date and I can still remember it like it was yesterday. I was at a picnic with my Dad and a very good friend of mine (at that time). We returned early and I was talked into going on a double date that night and now 27 years later along with a great deal of memories and two extraordinary children life is wonderful. It is funny how a seemingly insignificant event turned into a momentous event. This is exactly why all moments should be experienced with open arms because who knows what may transpire from that one moment. I wouldn’t have predicted that going on that double date would lead to a life with such an extraordinary person in my wife. I just thought “why not?” and look what happened. There were so many “what ifs” 27 years ago and this crazy plan by a Higher Power is magical; thankfully because of recovery I am able to really embrace the wonderment of life. Wow; 27 years; where has the time gone and guess what it is not about to slow down! I love you sweetie and thank you for everything!!!!