Comfortable Wedding

Yesterday evening was a first of sorts for my wife and me. As I mentioned previously we were invited to a wedding earlier this week and the wedding took place last night. It was a wedding but not the conventional wedding we have been to over the years. This may have been a wedding of two men but he wasn’t unlike those weddings of the past since the two participants did appear to love one another. Isn’t that what it is all about and I know I have been conditioned to expect a wedding to be between members of the opposite sex but what is so wrong about members of the same sex marrying? I still don’t understand the offense and it can’t possibly be the end of civilization as we know it.

This was an impromptu wedding and mostly due to the uncertainty of Proposition 8 on the upcoming elections which doesn’t make for the best reason to get married but the motivation was there on both parties. Since it was an impromptu wedding the gift “getting” was rushed and we abided by the invitation which requested a photo framed or unframed with a caption on the back as to the secret of “our” long lasting marriage. I thought this was a very personal idea and a good idea; however; I had such difficulty printing out the photo of my wife and me that I became very frustrated losing the original meaning of the gift. I must point out that I had my doubts about being able to print out the photo even before I started so my “law of attraction” wasn’t so good!!

The time was getting that we needed to depart for the wedding and I decided to just insert in the card stating the gift would be delayed due to “technical difficulties”. We did depart for the wedding and fortunately we have some very great friends who were able to watch our children for the evening even on such short notice.

The wedding was local but it seemed like a world away since the house was near “Wine Country” and situated on horse property. Life is all about personal connections and people helping other people which were evident last evening. Two wonderful people wanted to host the wedding for the “happy couple” and it was a perfect venue for a wedding at their residence. The backyard was complete with a gazebo that could have been built as a wedding chapel instead and weather cooperated quite nicely with a slight breeze and a very moderate temperature. It was a very serene and peaceful setting and even though one of the participants was over an hour late there wasn’t the usual wedding rushing or stuffiness.

It was a very warm and cozy event all evening long. I was given a bit of misinformation because I was told there would be many more than the 20 or so people in attendance. I can chalk this up to the source that seems to overestimate certain circumstances and frankly it didn’t matter since the venue could have supported many more people. I believe the event still would have been warm and cozy affair as the dinner was served family style and my “pickiness” was catered to as well. There were steaks for most people but I was served a very delicious selection of salmon and everything was delicious.

Really the only intimate style wedding I have been to was many years ago when we resided in Las Vegas as my roommate from college had a “Vegas” style wedding. It wasn’t one of those “chapel” type weddings it was held in the now defunct MGM Theme Park in their wedding chapel and afterwards we all had a very nice dinner at an Emeril Lagasse restaurant so there is something to be said for these intimate weddings. Anyhow the evening was very nice and my wife commented that it was a very nice warm evening even though she didn’t know basically anyone at the wedding. My wife was welcomed with open arms and these were very good people that hosted the wedding.

We weren’t out very late so we picked up the children from our dear friends’ home and headed home. It was a very good night sleep taking advantage of the extra hour and there must have been something to this extra as my daughter who loves her sleep was awake well before her normal wakeup time on a Sunday. This caused me to make a comment asking my daughter if she was feeling alright and she replied with a shy smile. The day brought some religion training to the children and I did my best to catch-up on the blog before taking my son to a birthday party. I guess these birthday parties for 7 and 8 year old boys are Mom’s only events since I was the only Dad in attendance. This was okay by me because it was all about being with my son and the fact that he wanted me to take him to the party. The party went well and was combined with taking one of my son’s friends home with us for a play date. It was a very good way to spend a Sunday.